Intervention

So, the other evening a "friend" called us to help him with his failing marriage. Now, we have been totally disconnected from what has been going on with our two "friends" and we know that since before and after they got married that they were having marital issues. My husband and I knew and they knew too that they weren't ready to get married, they were forced into marriage because she got pregnant and the mother-in law made them get married. So over the course of the year that they have been married it's been nothing but an uphill battle and many trips out to their hometown and listen to them bitch about each other. They both treat each other like shit and it's obvious that they don't have any respect for each other. For instance the male friend makes her basically take care of the child while he sits on his ass and eats chips and plays call of duty. We have been saying over the course of us knowing them that this marriage won't last. So while watching this marriage slowly detoriate we have been slowly removing ourselves (unintenionally) from their lives.
So with that being said we were apprehensive about doing an intervension. The male friend expressed concern about loosing his son and his wife not letting him talk to her and feeling like his side is not being heard. The person that he went to told him to get some friends together and do an intervention to have her listen. After much talk my husband and I felt that were put in a very awkward position and we didn't want to risk having this intervention go south and our female friend feel like she was being attacked. The last three times that we went out there was about their marriage and letting them talk, so we knew that she would pick up on the reason we were actually there. I would never put my friends in this awkward of situation and bring us right in the middle of something that really we don't want to put in the middle of, and make or break friendships. So after about 20 minutes of conversation we decided that we were not going to help our friend with this intervention. I feel that we made the best decision for us, because you can't fix someone elses mistakes. Sorry male friend, to little to late. You can't keep relying on your friends to bale you out. Live and learn.