Family

Well I think we al knew (by we I me we because who reads this?!) that this post was coming. The dreaded family post.

Toady I went invitation shopping for the wedding because well people aren't going to show up uninvited right? So anyways my parents were very quiet and not really saying much, it seems my mother always gets kinda opiniated around this kind of stuff. My father hardly said anything at all and just sat there kinda partaking but not really.

Now there is a history here, my parents really don't like my fiance. Why you ask? Well.... he;s an asshole. "Now Burnt Toast, that's not nice." no I honestly and truly believe and know that my fiance is an asshole. He has no problem telling people what he thinks and why he thinks it, and this includes telling ones parents that he doesn't like the way that they raised me and he thinks they are bad parents. Ya, that's why they don't like him. Also it might have to do with the fact that my brother in laws had their careers established and one of my brother in laws is a certified accountant and is oh about 10 years older than my middle sister, so he is now in my 40's.

I have gone through everything in my head about my fiance, all the good and all the bad (and there are lots of both). Over the past six years I have seen a lot of his personality that I do adore, and him being an asshole believe it or not is one of them. I just don't understand why my family doesn't approve I don't understand. I am the youngest of three, and should mention as well that I amd seven years younger than my middle sister. I know that I am getting married kind of young, about a month before my 25th birthday. I have a feeling that some of the maybe hesitancy you could call it would be that my mother was married about my age and maybe she wished that she had waited. Another big part is also his family is extremely broken, and they clash horribly with the beliefs of my family. So maybe they feel that his broken family will happen to us when he have kids? All very valid concerns but they don't see that my fiance doesn't want that for his kids and he is going to school to give his kids the life that he never had. He also has lived the life that he never wants for his own children and he knows what to work towards. He envies me for the family that I have and hopes that our children will kinda have the same thing.

I feel that I have made a decent choice. He has his faults, as everyone does. Some are bigger than others and some we need help on. But I believe that this is normal, to think otherwise is ignoring reality. I would understand if he was a hardcore drug user and was abusing me while sitting on the couch and telling me to make his dinner. But he's not, but this is my life and I will live it the way I wish. If it's a mistake then I guess they can say "I Told You So."